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Cobalt: sure. even though i'm frustrated by not being able to control the way i feel about stuff, i think it's still pretty normal to be upset about things that are upsetting
Cobalt: and maybe some people would be able to process this differently, or even better, than i can, but i'm not them, and i'm not going to trivialize my pain by comparing myself to someone else. if that makes sense.
Cobalt: we all have to deal with stuff in our own ways, and that's okay.
Cobalt: it sounds like maybe you already know this, though, and maybe the thing that's hard for you is when you feel like someone else is judging the way you feel your own feelings?

Cobalt: maybe hiryuu just doesn't realize how she's coming across?
Cobalt: i'm certain she's not trying to hurt you on purpose. she's probably just not aware of how her words sound to you.

Eclipse: Basically
Eclipse: I don't like feeling judged but then again that's the same for most people
Eclipse: And she probably isn't, that's why I need to talk to her
Eclipse: And to be honest I'll probably have to talk about more than just the argument with her
Eclipse: The problem at that point is that we should be honest but if I'm being honest then I'll end up hurting her feelings

Cobalt: Maybe? But also maybe not! I think you both have a lot of common ground
Cobalt: for example, you both want to be understood, and you both want to live your lives in a way you can feel okay with, and you both care about each other a lot. It's not like you're rejecting her as a person, it's just that some of the ways she expresses her love for people (including you) accidentally hurts you.
Cobalt: and she may not understand how or why or that you're even being hurt
Cobalt: but the reason why you even want to talk to her about it is because you actually care about her too and want to continue having a good relationship with her
Cobalt: so instead of framing this as something like "hey i hate that thing you do" it can be approached like "here's how it feels to me, what can we do in the future where both of us can feel respected and acknowledged"
Cobalt: something like that

Eclipse: I'll try to keep that in mind
Eclipse: I'm still trying to decide exactly what I should say to her
Eclipse: Thanks for listening to me

Cobalt: you too

Cobalt: i hope that your conversation goes as well as it can.
Cobalt: good luck

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