Cobalt: Maybe? But also maybe not! I think you both have a lot of common ground Cobalt: for example, you both want to be understood, and you both want to live your lives in a way you can feel okay with, and you both care about each other a lot. It's not like you're rejecting her as a person, it's just that some of the ways she expresses her love for people (including you) accidentally hurts you. Cobalt: and she may not understand how or why or that you're even being hurt Cobalt: but the reason why you even want to talk to her about it is because you actually care about her too and want to continue having a good relationship with her Cobalt: so instead of framing this as something like "hey i hate that thing you do" it can be approached like "here's how it feels to me, what can we do in the future where both of us can feel respected and acknowledged" Cobalt: something like that
Re: Sometime Day 87
Cobalt: for example, you both want to be understood, and you both want to live your lives in a way you can feel okay with, and you both care about each other a lot. It's not like you're rejecting her as a person, it's just that some of the ways she expresses her love for people (including you) accidentally hurts you.
Cobalt: and she may not understand how or why or that you're even being hurt
Cobalt: but the reason why you even want to talk to her about it is because you actually care about her too and want to continue having a good relationship with her
Cobalt: so instead of framing this as something like "hey i hate that thing you do" it can be approached like "here's how it feels to me, what can we do in the future where both of us can feel respected and acknowledged"
Cobalt: something like that